Being a Mum Can Be Hard
Whether you’re a mum by birth, legal guardian, step-mum, or kinship, its bloody hard.
Yes, being a Mum is hard, but it’s also amazing. It is full of oxymorons, fear, doubt, joy, love, and so much more; it makes you feel like a failure, but then makes you feel like you are super human. It makes you feel like you are crazy. And makes you feel like the most patient person in the world, but makes you feel like the most impatient person in the world.
The rollercoaster of emotions in motherhood can be overwhelming. There are moments of joy and love, where the bond with your child brings immense happiness. However, there can also be moments of fear, uncertainty, and loneliness. We must understand that these emotions are normal and part of the motherhood experience. It is okay to feel overwhelmed and seek support from others who may have gone through similar experiences.
Feeling like a failure is something many mothers can relate to. We must remember that no one is perfect, and motherhood does not come with a manual. Asking for help when feeling overwhelmed or when doubting one's abilities is crucial. Seeking support from loved ones, friends, or professional resources can provide reassurance and guidance.
Taking care of oneself is often overlooked but incredibly important in motherhood. It is easy to prioritize the needs of the child and neglect self-care. However, your well-being directly affects your ability to care for your children effectively. Engaging in activities that bring joy, practicing self-compassion, and maintaining a support network are vital components of self-care.
Societal expectations can significantly impact your experience. The pressure to meet certain standards or live up to idealized images of being a mum can create feelings of guilt and inadequacy. It is important to challenge these unrealistic expectations and recognise that every mother's journey is different and unique. Comparing oneself to others or striving for perfection can be detrimental. Embracing imperfections and celebrating small victories can help alleviate the burden of never feeling "good enough", and burden of trying to meet unrealistic standards.
Also, remembering that no one is alone in this journey is crucial. Seeking support and connecting with other mothers who understand the challenges and joys of motherhood can be immensely comforting and empowering. Building a community of support, whether through online groups, parenting groups, or local communities, can provide a valuable network of individuals who can offer advice, empathy, and encouragement.
In the end, it's essential to remember that being a mum is a complex and multifaceted experience. It's okay to have moments of doubt, fear, or impatience, as well as moments of joy, love, and superhuman strength. By acknowledging and embracing these contradictions, practicing self-care, challenging societal expectations, and seeking support, we can navigate the challenges and embrace the beauty of motherhood.
Remember, we are not alone, and together, we can uplift and empower each other on this journey.